Not just moms, even dads are shamed, reveals survey

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The results published this week in the C.S. Mott Children's Hospital National Poll on Children's Health show that many dads are having a harder time than we might realise when it comes to doing the right thing in the eyes of others.

According to a new survey, almost half of American dads said they were criticised for their parenting styles. Almost a third of fathers also felt judged for not paying enough attention to children and an equal number said they were told they played too rough. 20 per cent of them said they felt discouraged to engage more with parenting. "Family members - especially the other parent - should be willing to acknowledge that different parenting styles are not necessarily incorrect or harmful". Although for some this just led to the confirmation that their approach was the best, half of the fathers reported that they had made changes in their parenting choices after looking into it further.

Almost a quarter of fathers polled (23 percent) have also felt excluded from communication about their child's activities. "When this occurs, minor differences in parenting style can cause conflict over the "best" way to parent".

And my pain is magnified during weekends like Father's Day.

Although dad shaming can take a toll on a father, nine in ten fathers (90%) feel that most fathers do a good job taking care of their kids. Father's Day is about those who are here, and those who aren't here anymore.

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That's definitely counterproductive, she noted.

Besides partners, grandparents were the next greatest dad critics (24%), followed by fathers' own friends (9%). A moment that, despite my father being so ill I could never imagine the pain and the waves of sorrow that would try to suffocate me for the rest of my life.

Why do some people believe fathers need their "helpful" advice?

Ironically enough, Achilles heel can also be described as "a weakness in spite of overall strength", for a couple of months my dad had physical vulnerability and the man who has been my family's rock had to slow down as well. The role of fathers in our society and our individual lives needs no introduction.

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